Why Men are not Obsessed with Women Anymore

 A woman on Facebook wrote:

"Men just aren't obsessed with woman anymore, and it's weird".
My response below.
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Blame Feminism, as well as the fact that boys aren't taught or wired to compete with women.

I just had an interesting talk with my 2 grandsons and grand-daughter. She feels left out because there are no girls her age around to play with, and she gets frustrated that the boys always win in sports. I tried to tell her that losing is part of learning to win because it makes you practice and get better. But the fact is boys are generally physically stronger and have an advantage. The boys on the other hand get tired of letting her win because boys are wired by God or evolution to compete and win.

When girls "want to be one of the boys or be better than boys", or when girl power and "girls are strong" is the theme then it triggers a competitiveness in relationships. This applies to marriage and/or dating. Our culture is set up, for better or worse, in which men have to compete against each other all the time. We view that as normal, but men really have no desire to compete against women.

Why?

Because our culture views male competition to win over other men as normal, but we are taught to not hurt women. Yet when women want to compete with men it creates a conflict in men between winning over women vs not wanting to hurt them. Men would rather not deal with that mess and just walk away or they will just have sex with them and walk away.

Plus, men want respect. That translates into noticing what they do that's healthy, moral, and skillful. A lot of men are down on themselves because they compete and don't always win over other men. Just watch sports and see how depressed men get when they lose. They are down on themselves already and need someone to encourage them and help them believe in themselves that they can win next time. Most men won't admit what I just said but it is a psychological reality. Encourage the man, show him that you really believe in him, and you'll have his heart. The dude will die for you. Insult him or nag him, and you can kiss his ass goodbye.